Life Lessons of a 34 Year Old.

I think the older you get, the harder it gets. When you are a child everything’s easy, you have everything planned out for you and you don’t care what other’s think. It’s only when worry, criticisms etc. Set in that things get harder.

Being almost 34, and 33 being the year I actually hit rock bottom from battling post-natal depression, legal threats, infidelity, and an unhappy ending, I have obviously learnt a couple of things...

You can't be everyone’s cup of tea. 

I am so guilty of trying to please everyone, to change what I like, decisions I make, and who I was just to appease someone else, but I have learnt you can’t please everyone, so stop trying! It's inevitable you will just end up frustrated and resentful. You just have to surround yourself with people who are like minded and who aren’t judgemental (people who won’t laugh at you for watching ‘other peoples holiday videos’ on YouTube) easier said than done I know! Remember there is no such thing as 'weird', people like different stuff, that's just normal.

You aren't ever stuck. 

You shouldn’t ever feel like there is no way out. There is, it’s probably just not as easy as you want it to be. Things that are difficult SHOULD be difficult, how are we meant to learn and grow if we are never challenged? If you need to escape something, do it. Why waste a lifetime of being unhappy? Inevitably things will fall into place with a little bit of hard work.

Time's a healer.

That burning feeling? It goes, it just needs time.

Stick up for yourself.

Well, who else is going to do it for you? Another hard-learnt lesson. I think if I hadn't have spoken out when it mattered the most the outcome would have been exactly the same, yet I would have just felt a million times worse. There is nothing worse than carrying around regret, and a could have/ would have/should have moment on your shoulders for the rest of your life. I don’t ever want to look back at times when I should have defended myself and didn’t because I was waiting on someone else to do it for me. No one can fight your own battles except you.

Take care of you. 

Because in the end there's only one of you. I am so guilty of letting my self care slide, but I am making more of a conscious effort to do just little things like; plucking my eyebrows and shaving my legs. Honestly, they are little things that can make a massive difference to my mood. I am also making more time to eat better and exercise. I have set myself goals on my watch, and I make sure I am hitting my steps daily rather than just once a week…

There are trust worthy people out there, I promise. 

You may not believe it, but there are still some good people left in the world.. They are few and far between, but when you meet that person you know, ya know? I may not have a massive friend base, but the ones that I do have just get me, and I can go to them with any problem and they will listen. You can have loads of ‘friends’ who you can talk to, but do they actually care when they leave your company? Nah!

I can’t believe I have gone this long without fully trusting a partner, it's honestly the best feeling in the world. There's no snooping, and I just don't ever have to question him because his intentions are just so clear and pure. We also have such an open relationship where we can just talk about anything, nothing is left to 2nd guessing.

Blood isn't thicker than water. 

You can’t choose your family, but I sure wish I could. The less said on this the better IMO

And finally, don't ever be told no. 

Don't give up on something just because other people don't agree with your aspirations. I think if I had listened at the beginning my blog would be non-existent. I was always told to give it up, but everyone needs a hobby and this was mine. It’s my creative outlet for photography, writing, coding and graphic design, something you don't find very often in administration! All because of my hard work I have collaborated with some pretty cool brands recently including; Ecocover, Aldi and Nivea. So, who's winning really?